Thursday, February 01, 2018

Mum shaken by return of a ghost

So Mum sent me the email below – I called her and she was really shaken up about it, such a shame. But she left it a week before telling me. I think I made her laugh and get over it a bit, but I was really quite surprised by how hard she took it. She must really despise him. I told her we’d seen him about 20 years ago more out of curiosity to find out if there were any hereditary things that we needed to be aware of, but also from Tasha’s perspective of losing her father when really young, she wanted to be certain that I wouldn’t regret missing out on knowing my dad. As we’ve since found out, there wasn’t really anything to miss out on and we’ve had no contact since then.

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Hope you are O.K.  I just wanted to let you know what happened to me last Friday night.  I’ll try to keep it short.

Man stood on my doorstep, said hello and grinned.  I said “I don’t know who you are”.  He replied that he was Michael (my ex) and was visiting all his exes, all four of them.  So shocked, we asked him in.  The next twenty minutes was all about him!  He had 45 years to moan about!

He had been to see his physcho nurses and decided he should visit his ex wives/girlfriends.  He gave me a card thanking me for taking him in all those years ago, when he was down “the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me” along with an extract from a suicide note that he had written previously.  I said I didn’t remember the event.  Then we had to listen to him saying he has had depression for years, has had a heart attack etc. etc.  At no time did he ask how I was doing, how you and Louise were, how his grandchildren were, I don’t know why that should surprise me as the only person he ever loved was himself.

At no time did he apologise for all the hurt he caused, sleeping with other women, stealing all my money that Dad had given me for the future, paying a pittance in maintenance which he tried to stop by dragging me through the courts, only seeing you both a couple of times before completely deserting you.  I always tried to encourage him to see you and at no time did I bad mouth him or run him down to you both.  He said he had visited you and Natasha and when he realized that I didn’t know he was very smug.

It has all been very upsetting and I don’t need all that crap to be brought up again after all this time.  Sorry to go on but I am so shocked at the sheer arrogance of the man!

You can get on with your work now!!!

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